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Dealing with our internal critic


Most of us have an internal critic. We may be aware of it or we may not. Our internal critic can have a powerful effect on the way with think about ourselves and consequently the way we live our lives.

Sometimes our critic can be subtle and sometimes it can be demanding, sometimes it can be disguised as friendly advice or can be the motivator behind our actions.

We can deal with our internal critic in many ways however people tend to cope with it either by externalising their internal critic therefore becoming critical of others, or internalising it and becoming self critical.

Both these ways of coping with the internal critic lead to ways of being which are not fully realised. In other words we limit ourselves because criticising others limits our relationship with them and criticising ourselves affects our relationship with ourselves

 To deal with our internal critic it is vital that we first becomes aware of its messages and how the critic functions. This can often take time to do because sometimes we have become so aligned with our critic that we experience no separation between it and ourselves. So we can feel that our critic is us. However we have internalised this from somewhere so, even now we may feel it is who we are, the messages originate from outside of us.

These criticisms originate from a different time and a different place.

Separating ourselves from the critic enables several things. It enables us to experience the inter-rational dynamic with our critic. We see where it has come from, how it has shaped the way we are, what our attachment is to it and why.

Understanding what our attachment is to our critic is the process by which we can start to develop a different way of relating to it. When we are able to see the reasons behind our critics existence and the function it has served for us, our attachment to the critic can change and therefore its influence is reduced.

Eventually our critic can dissolve and we can find who we are without meeting the demands of the, once powerful and persuasive, critic.

From this separation we can experience a sense of liberation and discover who we are independent or our internal critic.


Psychotherapy can help us:

  • Take control of our life
  • Reduce conflict: internal and interpersonal
  • Overcome our struggles
  • Deal with depression
  • Find meaning and purpose in life
  • Overcome difficult feelings: anxiety, anger, grief, fear
  • Deal with stress
  • Cope with psychiatric illness
  • Increase the quality of our relationships
  • Deal with panic attacks
  • Overcome repetitive life patterns
  • Get out of our stuckness
  • Grow and develop
  • Learn new parenting skills
  • Overcome sexual difficulties: past or present
  • Deal with domestic abuse: past or present
  • Deal with self-limiting beliefs
  • Discover who we are
  • Stop smoking
  • Increase our self awareness
  • Learn how to succeed
  • Increase our self-esteem
  • Deal with obsessive behaviour
  • Change our negative thinking
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    Hello and welcome to the Skipton Psychotherapy website. My name is Michael Hartley. I am a qualified psychotherapist and have been in private practice since 1996. I offer psychotherapy for individuals and couples.

    What you can find on this website

    This website has more information about what psychotherapy is and how it may help you. You can also find information about the types of issues you can address in psychotherapy. Also there is information about psychotherapy for couples which you may find helpful if you are considering couples therapy.

    Further to this I have written a brief autobiography so you have some knowledge about me, what my experience and level of expertise is. I have included this because I believe choosing the right therapist is a crucial ingredient in the success of psychotherapy. I hope this information is of use to you. If you want to discuss anything further or want to arrange initial consultation then call me on 07941 488851.

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