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Anger Management

 

Many people find it difficult to control their anger. When people seek anger management for dealing with their anger it is often as a last resort. This often occurs when someone has been hurt or the recipient of the anger says “they have had enough” or “things have to change otherwise it is over.”

This means that the expression of anger has been allowed to develop to a level which someone cannot tolerate.

It is often at this point that the one expressing the anger takes stock and realises that they have to do something about it. They need to anger management

This is when people come to therapy knowing that they have to change the way they behave when they are angry. And often people want some advice and “be told” how to control their anger.

This is understandable when you realise how anger works. People who have difficulty controlling their anger do so because, in many ways, they believe their anger is caused by external influences.

People often say “they made me angry” or blame other’s behaviour for how they feel. It therefore makes perfect sense that they would believe that an external influence could now take control of their anger i.e a technique. This focus on the external is the contaminated thinking at the root of all anger.

Traditional anger management techniques tend to reinforce this idea because they offer techniques that on the surface appear to instil control. These various distraction techniques attempt to move people away from their anger.

These approaches can be very useful in the initial stages so that the person can gain some control. But it is not the technique that brings the control it is the decision of individual to change which makes the difference.

However the main value of this is that the person starts to develop some space between their anger and their behaviour. So they start to be able to feel anger without acting on it. This is vital in the process of change and once the person has gained some control then they can start to develop awareness and understanding over the nature of their anger. They start to learn to be different with their anger.

Once the control of anger has been established fundamental change can take place. However resolution of anger is not about self-control. If we think of anger as the result of a contaminated view then understanding and changing the way we process our experience is where resolution is truly found

If you have issues with anger and want to talk about how you can change this then feel free to call me on 07941 488851

 

Psychotherapy can help us:

  • Take control of our life
  • Reduce conflict: internal and interpersonal
  • Overcome our struggles
  • Deal with depression
  • Find meaning and purpose in life
  • Overcome difficult feelings: anxiety, anger, grief, fear
  • Deal with stress
  • Cope with psychiatric illness
  • Increase the quality of our relationships
  • Deal with panic attacks
  • Overcome repetitive life patterns
  • Get out of our stuckness
  • Grow and develop
  • Learn new parenting skills
  • Overcome sexual difficulties: past or present
  • Deal with domestic abuse: past or present
  • Deal with self-limiting beliefs
  • Discover who we are
  • Stop smoking
  • Increase our self awareness
  • Learn how to succeed
  • Increase our self-esteem
  • Deal with obsessive behaviour
  • Change our negative thinking
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    Hello and welcome to the Skipton Psychotherapy website. My name is Michael Hartley. I am a qualified psychotherapist and have been in private practice since 1996. I offer psychotherapy for individuals and couples.

    What you can find on this website

    This website has more information about what psychotherapy is and how it may help you. You can also find information about the types of issues you can address in psychotherapy. Also there is information about psychotherapy for couples which you may find helpful if you are considering couples therapy.

    Further to this I have written a brief autobiography so you have some knowledge about me, what my experience and level of expertise is. I have included this because I believe choosing the right therapist is a crucial ingredient in the success of psychotherapy. I hope this information is of use to you. If you want to discuss anything further or want to arrange initial consultation then call me on 07941 488851.

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