Welcome to Skipton Psychotherapy
I imagine if you have come to Skipton Psychotherapy you are having difficulties on you life. Maybe you are experiencing stress, emotional difficulties and feel like you need professional help to deal with it. By making this step you now have to opportunity to make things different.
As Einstein said, “The significant problems we face today cannot be solved at the level of thinking that created them.”
Seeking help doesn’t mean that you are weak or inadequate in any way. It means that the concepts by which you have been living your life are no longer working and you now need some guidance to help you move beyond where you currently are. This motivation is crucial in creating the changes you desire.
Please feel free to explore the contents of this website and if you think you can make use of what I have to offer then please call me on 07941488851 or EMAIL ME and we can arrange an initial consultation and talk about how we proceed.
Mick Hartley RMN, BSc (Psychol) CTA, UKCP Registered
“Before I went to Mick, I was not good at talking to anyone about personal things. I was a closed book and did not trust anyone. I was good at holding in yet it was starting to bubble over. I knew I could not go on as I was. I was at a very low point in my life. I was feeling overwhelmed with my current situation and it was affecting my day to day life. I felt alone and trapped. I just could not understand why I felt the way I did. I was estranged from my partner, my family and contact with my friends had reduced. I believed others had more to worry about than me. I did not want to bother anyone and blamed myself for most things. I was so hard on myself. I was not in a good place. It felt like I was spiralling down a deep hole. I lost tonnes of weight and was not taking care of myself. Emotionally or physically. I was exhausted and knew I had stopped caring.
As time went on I began to notice a change in myself. I learnt to better understand why I responded and felt the way I did. There was no pressure to talk about things I was not comfortable with. Yet when I did, I felt supported and listened to throughout. Mick was able to challenge the unhelpful way I related to myself in a gentle way and helped me become more self-aware. I learned to ask for what I needed and began to think differently. I was not so hard on myself. I learnt that I did not have to take all the blame. Mick was kind, caring and patient. Reaching out for help was the defining moment for me, I could not see the positives of my life yet I can now. Mick helped me help myself. He showed me how to disentangle things and guided me thorough my confusion. There were tonnes of reflection, tears and learning yet also some humour too when appropriate. I felt these were precious moments that helped me immensely. He enabled me to find my inner strength and beauty and to celebrate it. Being me is ok and I like that. I am still learning yet I now have some tools to communicate in a different way with others and myself”
“I remember when I first decided that I could not go on as I was and googled psychotherapist. I was terrified and desperate. Thank goodness you were the one that came up as I know if I had not liked the person I would probably not have tried another one.
Little did I know how life changing and important this relationship would end up being. I have moved from being a very depressed, crushed person into someone who is comfortable and confident in my own skin. You have helped me work through both long standing issues and traumatic life events. This has led to me taking steps that I would never have made room for before, such as going to Uni and starting my own business.
You are one of the smartest people I know and what we have achieved in that weird little room week after week is nothing short of remarkable. I sometimes catch myself being patient, calm, kinder and laugh at how I would have dealt with it previous to therapy. I used to be very ashamed of having to see a therapist, I thought I would come a couple of times get fixed and then leave. I am now very proud of the work we have done together and recommend it to everyone.”
“I have been seeing Mick for many years now. All I ask myself is why I didn’t start seeing him a lot sooner. This is me time, time to reflect, time to learn. I’ve learned so much about myself, I’ve formed stronger secure relationships at home and at work. I manage situations in far better ways, I’m level head, use better language, clearer with my thoughts,robust and happy. I highley recommend Mick, he is caring knowledgeable and an unbelievable facilitator to help me speak with myself.”
Jonny Ross – digital marketer
In 2017 I started seeing Mick Hartley for psycho-therapy sessions on a weekly basis. Looking back, that now feels like a lifetime ago, because of the many changes and realisations that Mick has brought me to.
Back then I had got to a point in my life where I felt completely lost with who I was and what I was doing here; carrying a low self-esteem and little respect for myself, with no belief in my capabilities. Blindly stumbling through life consumed by my habitual patterns of drug and alcohol abuse, I could not even see, much less admit to the damage I was causing myself, both physically and mentally.
Over the 2 ½ years seeing Mick, these sessions helped me unravel my childhood traumas, to see things more clearly and to understand how I have unknowingly been carrying my anguish throughout the years.
Also, through my own natural curiosity I began to question life and suffering. I turned to spirituality, Philosophy, looking to understand different civilised and uncivilised cultures, and seeking alternative medicines in order to get a better perspective of myself and the world I am in.
Mick’s broad knowledge and experience helped me slowly toward a better understanding of how much better than I had thought, the world and people can be. Through his patient, kind and gentle guidance I eventually found it easier and easier to open up during the sessions, even if the realisations I came to caused me initial distress.
By helping me to question my emotions and long-held beliefs about myself and how I believed I was viewed by others, Mick guided me towards realising and accepting that I am a good, loving, capable, beautiful, funny and intelligent human being. It was my “upbringing” which had caused me to deny those, and other qualities, in order to protect myself.
So, in conclusion I would like to say how much I really love and respect what Mick and I have done to turn me around, to embrace life instead of fighting with it. There is still plenty of inner work to be done, but now on a much better path. Thank you for your support and guidance.